As a warning, this post is mostly about introspection as opposed to adventure. I have been involved in some stunts lately and I’ll probably get to those at a later date. But you know, I haven’t been posting in a while. I’m not saying I haven’t been writing, but the stuff that I’ve been putting together I didn’t deem as interesting enough to make it to this super amazing website I’ve got going here. Anyway, I recently got back from Kentucky and I’ve been thinking about life and happiness and I wrote a quick blip about what it is that I feel that I should strive for so that happiness poops its bliss on my shoulder. After I returned from the gorgeous Red River Gorge I spent a day just thinking and writing. This project I started will more than likely come to be an ongoing thing and I’ve been encouraged to share this so here you go:
I need things in life, everyone does. Yet just recently I recognized that I need to voice my opinion on what it is that I need. People go through life in different ways and the way that I would like to choose is the way that involves me being the absolute happiest. Other people mean a lot to me and their happiness will reflect how happy I am on varying scales but the honest reason that their happiness means what it does to me is because of the original emotion coming from me. I am pleased to write what it is that I want in life and in my relationships here and I’m excited to see it for myself.
Above all, in my life I need an increased sense of positivism because negativity leads to complaints and complaints encourage one to solve nothing. Positive thinking allow one to tweak what one wants or make a change to the situation for the best outcome. Focusing on the good rather than the bad will at the least leave one with a happy mind rather than a discontented one.
In my life I am looking for a friend, a best friend with whom I can do things and activities with. I want to like most of these activities. I’m looking for someone to enjoy life and nature with, to appreciate culture and music, to work through problems, and to not only enjoy life as you make it but to love life as it comes to you.
I would like to sustain a knowledge of the people around oneself. Not just in the sense that they are physically there but in the act of being considerate and acting not only for one’s own good but for the good of the people around you. This can be reflected by a form of cleanliness and self sufficiency around those you live or interact or even with random people on the street. The idea is to make daily living easier for other people by expressing simple actions that are either neutral or positive for the people you share this earth with so that others won’t have to go out of their way to in a sense clean up after you. This is not a rule; it is a standard.
A constant sense of improving one’s life is important. Staying within what one is handed in life is stagnation that leads to nothing. Making better one’s lot in life is a constant project that doesn’t require negativity, though one can work to make things that one doesn’t like better, one should be working at what they find moderately pleasant or neutral to eventually become fantastic. When the ease of negativity arises and one thinks “I hate that” it is better to continue with, “What can I do to make this better?”. There are usually multiple different ways to solve a life problem.
Putting issues on hold and waiting for them to solve themselves can lead to dissent and hate. Working at issues as they come is the best way to handle them. Living life with eyes unclouded by hate or to avoid being shrouded by a fog of unhappiness is the best way to enjoy it. This is not to be confused with ignorance.
Comfort, there is definitely something to be said about comfort, being comfortable with oneself is ideal whether it is socially or physically or emotionally. Being comfortable is not meant to blind oneself from any ugly truths, as all people have flaws. It is acknowledging and being OK with the flaws as one makes strides to change them. I feel that to be happy one must be comfortable with one’s self. Being inwardly comfortable is important so that one might be able to become externally comfortable. Pushing oneself is important as one strives for better and better things but one must be allowed to have a place of comfort and relaxation, an oasis from the new, the novel, and the difficult. This is so one might have time to heal or recharge but if one stays in this comfort zone too long one is apt to boredom and discontent as well as being vulnerable to a mental and physical regression. It is important for one to be in a relationship that is not only comforting or solely challenging; it must have a healthy balance.
I think it’s a great little exorcize to write what actually makes you happy and to put some thought into why. I’d encourage you to plug something down and put it in the comments box if you’d like to share.
I fully agree that constant improvement is important, and this is one thing that I can say creates happiness for me.